Life is so unfair some times...I don't know what to do

[wizardmiguel]

I'm originally from Venezuela, I came to the US almost 8 years ago because my step father who was born and raised here convinced me to stay and leave everything behind, and by everything i mean everything, belongings, job, college, relationship, etc...I transfered to a university here in Chicago and traded my physics and Math professor job for car washing. I had a really hard time at the beginning but little by little I built my life here. I found a wonderful partner which I've spent over 7 years with. After graduating from college I found a job in a company that gave me the visa sponsorship so I was cool while my residency papers got processed. I moved up the ranks in the company and became a manager in 3 years. My partner and I bought a condo. Life was good. Suddenly, some time last year my company got bought out and I got laid off a couple of months ago. No job, no immigration papers. After 6 years my residency papers are still not ready. Everyone is telling me to get married to a girl to stay in the US. I have no country to go back to. The country is but a shadow of what it used to be. Everyone I knew left it. If I were straight I would've married my partner many years ago and I wouldn't have an issue. My partner is now proposing to go get married in California and challenge immigration law. I'm willing to do that but it is scary. I don't want to loose him or be apart from him for too long. My residency papers are going to take at least another year and my lawyer advised me to leave and wait for the papers for a year outside the US. I have no place to go over there, that is not my home anymore.

Sorry for the post...II just get down some times and I need to vent with someone. I'm usually an optimist but lately it's been real hard for me.

[Kevzin]

You could get married here In CA but I would look into it more you know were all here for you and love you

[Ken]

That's so sad. SeemsHeading over to CA to get married might be a good idea but in the end it's up to you guys. Hope everything works out *Hug*

[Tophy]

Legally, you could get married in California, but challenging immigration law is going to be tough. I'm really sorry you're going through this; it really is terrible. But I'm certain that however difficult this situation proves to be for you, it'll be over soon enough. Life is often hard, but hey, we all find it's worth it in the long run. Best of luck to you.

[EnCodedStatic]

Hope everything works out well for you! *hugs*

[EriC]

Ack I'm sorry to hear all that. I wish I could give you some helpful advice, but obviously your lawyer would know better. I've heard this and that about Venezuela from a few people and I can understand you not wanting to go back. I say challenge the immigration laws the best you can and have faith that things will work out for you and your partner. You're an awesome guy and I'd hate to see you have to go.

[wizardmiguel]

Hello all and thank you for the responses. I'll provide a little update: It's been a tough few months as I've been struggling to find a new job in this market, i've been working as a server in a restaurant to support myself in the meantime which is fine for me, I like that job. Today I finally got a job offer in my career and I've been told I'll get another one tomorrow. After looking for a job for so long now at the very last moment I have two where to choose from and they are both willing to fix my immigration papers. This really taught me something: No matter how dark and uncertain the path ahead of you seems to be, things always turn out for the best at the end, and everything happens for a reason. My BF kept telling me that but for some reason that seemed like such a long shot that I didn't listen. Thank you very much for your support, it really helped me when I was really down and I truly hope that we can play together online soon!

[Kevzin]

I'm happy that things are looking better

[Dan]

Wait for your papers! Then you can marry your partner. If I had a partner in your situation and trully loved him, I'd be willing to wait and not take a chance of screwing up hi life.

Dan

[King0fHearts]

Why is everyone talking about California like it's the 1st and only state to recognize gay marriage? Why don't you move to Boston, Mass. I'm married and live in Boston Mass now (Originally from Phoenix, AZ); Gay marriage is legal here as well. The catch... That ALL persons getting married in Mass are required to wait 3 days before they get there marriage license and proof of residence... On the upside tho, Mass. marriage laws are more extant in covering your equal right than ones is Cali. There are all so many, many job opportunity here, and some of the worlds best... Okay maybe not the "world best" but the U.S. best school. i.e Harvard, Berkly School of music, North Eastern and so on and so forth. (you said you were a Physics and Math professor at one point) I'm sure things will work out for you... And if all else fail there is always Canada... I like Canada there nice up there... and they gave damn good weed too... If your into that kinda stuff you know.